Family Support

  • WHAT IS IT?

    The word we use in French, my mother tongue, is “accompagnement familial”. “Accompagner” – accompany in English – means to go along the path with a person, to escort her. In French, the word implies so much more. It means to respect the pace of the person, to choose the destination and the way with her, to accept the time she might need to get there.

    Family support exists to help families who are facing a particularly intense or difficult educational, emotional or logistical situation.

    WHAT IS IT NOT ?

    To support you does not mean to assist you, but to make you feel secure, so that you can experience evolutions and changes in your life calmly.

    To support does not imply to impose a direction, but to guide, to suggest a way forward according to the path you choose for your family.

    To support does not involve telling you what to do, but to search for solutions with you.


    The principles and definitions have been formulated thanks to the excellent work on support by Maela Paul, Doctor in Educational Sciences.

    Biography (available in French):

    PAUL Maela 2016, La démarche d’accompagnement, repères méthodologiques et ressources théoriques. Perspectives éducation & Formation. De Boeck Supérieur.

    PAUL Maela, 2004, L’accompagnement : une posture professionnelle spécifique, Paris, L’Harmattan.

  • THE PRINCIPLES OF FAMILY SUPPORT

    TO MOVE FORWARD

    Family support becomes necessary when a strong need for adjustment emerges in your family (birth of a child, conflicts, disease or fatigue, problems with the children, moving to a new country, etc…). It requires a step forward, towards something new.

    We work together in the context of your current situation and develop solutions which are suited to your new way of life.

    As a counsellor, I adjust to your rhythm. You set the pace and together we choose the direction.

    TO SEARCH TOGETHER

    When you are facing a problematic or difficult situation in your family, I do not give you solutions but I search for them with you.

    TO BE OPEN TO EXPERIMENTATION

    Within a supportive relationship, we open a space in which you feel sufficiently secure to explore different options to act upon your situation. Being supported allows you to change your mind along the way, to try several ways to make improvements. I therefore support you in your process of creating a different lifestyle (organising things differently with your baby, improving the quality of family relationships, reducing the conflicts with your children, integrating in a new country…).

    However, if you are not convinced that you have the power to act upon your situation, being supported cannot help you. This conviction cannot be enforced through speech : my role is not to convince you that you can make changes but to support you while you do. Your autonomy regarding decisions and actions is the pillar of our relationship.

    TO PERSONALISE

    The support I provide is personalised for each family. Different people in a similar context are not necessarily in the same situation. They each have their own feelings and interpretation of the situation and they use their resources differently. I therefore avoid making generalisations about the situations I encounter. I enter each new support relationship without prejudice regarding your personal situation.

    TO RESPECT

    I respect your privacy and the things you share with me or that I observe. I never share your contact details with anyone.

    However, in the case of a serious physical or psychological harm to a family member, especially a minor, I shall be required to report it to the relevant authorities (http://www.vooreenveiligthuis.nl/).

    TO REMAIN FLEXIBLE

    A support relationship has to be flexible, it has to be able to “breathe”. It is therefore possible to alternate between periods where we meet and periods where you take a step back from your situation.

  • WHY CHOOSE FAMILY SUPPORT?

    Every parent feels the need to be recognised, heard and reassured. These crucial needs can only be fulfilled through interaction with others. Unfortunately, some mothers or fathers are alone in their everyday life. This could be because one of them travels a lot, because they do not have a lots of friends yet, or because the problems they face cannot easily be shared. Those parents tend to lock themselves and their suffering up.

    If you are suffering and it’s affecting your role as a parent, even temporarily, it is important to have someone by your side, until you find your feet again. This can help avoid a breakdown.. It is essential to understand that we do not ask for help because we are unable to face a situation alone. Family support allows you to experiment with changes or adjustments in a safe way, and sometimes avoids a burnout.

    Being supported allows you to (re)discover what it feels like to be confident as you are the main agent of the changes you bring about. It allows you to be recognised as a parent and reassured about the choices you make about your parenting and your life. It allows you to keep moving on, serene and confident, along the path of family life.

  • BEING SUPPORTED : UNTIL WHEN?

    I will support you until you find new resources allowing you to act upon your situation rather than endure it. The support programme ends when you feel sufficiently fortified with new experiences, new methods and are able to proceed to new changes in the future, in autonomy.

  • COLLECTIVE SUPPORT

    Each supported parent is invited to participate in get-togethers organised through My Family Support. From our discussions, you can gather new ideas to evolve the way you parent. In this supportive environment, you will view parenting in a more positive and serene way. During these meetings, you will learn from one another and you will support each other as a community. Family support becomes collective. My role becomes the one of a chairperson, who will listen, reformulate, and pose questions. You, the parents, are counsellors for each other. These get togethers will allow you to hear echoes of your own situation. You will feel reassured and confident.

    « We can help someone only if we are different enough to bring him something
    but similar enough to confide in him ». Maela Paul

  • WHAT IS IT?

    The word we use in French, my mother tongue, is “accompagnement familial”. “Accompagner” – accompany in English – means to go along the path with a person, to escort her. In French, the word implies so much more. It means to respect the pace of the person, to choose the destination and the way with her, to accept the time she might need to get there.

    Family support exists to help families who are facing a particularly intense or difficult educational, emotional or logistical situation.

    WHAT IS IT NOT ?

    To support you does not mean to assist you, but to make you feel secure, so that you can experience evolutions and changes in your life calmly.

    To support does not imply to impose a direction, but to guide, to suggest a way forward according to the path you choose for your family.

    To support does not involve telling you what to do, but to search for solutions with you.


    The principles and definitions have been formulated thanks to the excellent work on support by Maela Paul, Doctor in Educational Sciences.

    Biography (available in French):

    PAUL Maela 2016, La démarche d’accompagnement, repères méthodologiques et ressources théoriques. Perspectives éducation & Formation. De Boeck Supérieur.

    PAUL Maela, 2004, L’accompagnement : une posture professionnelle spécifique, Paris, L’Harmattan.

  • THE PRINCIPLES OF FAMILY SUPPORT

    TO MOVE FORWARD

    Family support becomes necessary when a strong need for adjustment emerges in your family (birth of a child, conflicts, disease or fatigue, problems with the children, moving to a new country, etc…). It requires a step forward, towards something new.

    We work together in the context of your current situation and develop solutions which are suited to your new way of life.

    As a counsellor, I adjust to your rhythm. You set the pace and together we choose the direction.

    TO SEARCH TOGETHER

    When you are facing a problematic or difficult situation in your family, I do not give you solutions but I search for them with you.

    TO BE OPEN TO EXPERIMENTATION

    Within a supportive relationship, we open a space in which you feel sufficiently secure to explore different options to act upon your situation. Being supported allows you to change your mind along the way, to try several ways to make improvements. I therefore support you in your process of creating a different lifestyle (organising things differently with your baby, improving the quality of family relationships, reducing the conflicts with your children, integrating in a new country…).

    However, if you are not convinced that you have the power to act upon your situation, being supported cannot help you. This conviction cannot be enforced through speech : my role is not to convince you that you can make changes but to support you while you do. Your autonomy regarding decisions and actions is the pillar of our relationship.

    TO PERSONALISE

    The support I provide is personalised for each family. Different people in a similar context are not necessarily in the same situation. They each have their own feelings and interpretation of the situation and they use their resources differently. I therefore avoid making generalisations about the situations I encounter. I enter each new support relationship without prejudice regarding your personal situation.

    TO RESPECT

    I respect your privacy and the things you share with me or that I observe. I never share your contact details with anyone.

    However, in the case of a serious physical or psychological harm to a family member, especially a minor, I shall be required to report it to the relevant authorities (http://www.vooreenveiligthuis.nl/).

    TO REMAIN FLEXIBLE

    A support relationship has to be flexible, it has to be able to “breathe”. It is therefore possible to alternate between periods where we meet and periods where you take a step back from your situation.

  • WHY CHOOSE FAMILY SUPPORT?

    Every parent feels the need to be recognised, heard and reassured. These crucial needs can only be fulfilled through interaction with others. Unfortunately, some mothers or fathers are alone in their everyday life. This could be because one of them travels a lot, because they do not have a lots of friends yet, or because the problems they face cannot easily be shared. Those parents tend to lock themselves and their suffering up.

    If you are suffering and it’s affecting your role as a parent, even temporarily, it is important to have someone by your side, until you find your feet again. This can help avoid a breakdown.. It is essential to understand that we do not ask for help because we are unable to face a situation alone. Family support allows you to experiment with changes or adjustments in a safe way, and sometimes avoids a burnout.

    Being supported allows you to (re)discover what it feels like to be confident as you are the main agent of the changes you bring about. It allows you to be recognised as a parent and reassured about the choices you make about your parenting and your life. It allows you to keep moving on, serene and confident, along the path of family life.

  • BEING SUPPORTED : UNTIL WHEN?

    I will support you until you find new resources allowing you to act upon your situation rather than endure it. The support programme ends when you feel sufficiently fortified with new experiences, new methods and are able to proceed to new changes in the future, in autonomy.

  • COLLECTIVE SUPPORT

    Each supported parent is invited to participate in get-togethers organised through My Family Support. From our discussions, you can gather new ideas to evolve the way you parent. In this supportive environment, you will view parenting in a more positive and serene way. During these meetings, you will learn from one another and you will support each other as a community. Family support becomes collective. My role becomes the one of a chairperson, who will listen, reformulate, and pose questions. You, the parents, are counsellors for each other. These get togethers will allow you to hear echoes of your own situation. You will feel reassured and confident.

    « We can help someone only if we are different enough to bring him something
    but similar enough to confide in him ». Maela Paul